How My Blogging Besties Keep Me Grounded

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When I first read Rep. Maxine Water's quote about being a strong Black woman, I wanted to stand up and give her a slow clap thousands of miles away in a boutique hotel in Paris. YAS, QUEEN, YASSS! In just three sentences, she captured EXACTLY what it means to be a Black woman in the face of all the bullshit (excuse my French) we face every damn day. But the truth is, behind every successful woman is a tribe of other successful women who have her back. Or as, Luvvie so eloquently posted on Instagram, there's a group text hypin' her up. #Truth

"Behind every successful woman is a tribe of other successful women who have her back.

So in the spirit of sisterhood and solidarity, I want to give a special shoutout to a few members of my tribe ... the bad-ass boss women who have my back no matter what, the ones I text on the regular for branding, blogging and business advice. To paraphrase Drizzy Drake, they're my "right hand, they're my go-to."

Anuli Akanegbu: Fun fact is that I stalked Anuli on social media before we ever met IRL and it was love at first tweet. From growing up in Maryland to wanting to be members of Spice Girls, we instantly vibed and our friendship is still going strong nearly four years later. Whenever I need a boost of confidence or a swift kick in the pants, Anuli is there to help me be a better blogger, a better writer and an all-around better person. Subscribe to her newsletter, The Intersection Wkly, here.

Chasity Cooper: So, like most of the cool people I know, I first learned about and met Chasity through Anuli (she's like the G.O.A.T. when it comes to connecting people, y'all). Chasity is the friend who calls you out on your b.s. and holds you accountable to what you say you're going to do because she believes in you and doesn't let you settle for mediocre. Sign up for her weekly wine newsletter, #WineWithChas, here.

Melissa Kimble: You know the friend whose pep talk is so lit you have to screenshot it and save it for future reference? That is Melissa. During a severe bout of impostor syndrome, Melissa talked me off the ledge with this truth bomb: "You define your own success ... you can only get to your next level by being you, not anyone else." Well, ain't that a word. Learn more about Melissa and #blkcreatives here.

Jessica Lauren: While Jessica's #flawless Instagram aesthetic drew me in, it was her spiritual quotes that made me stay. I was so inspired by her posts that I asked her what church she attended and, lo and behold, I'm happy to share I have a new church home! Better yet, Jessica is just as caring and kind in real life as she is online and truly embodies what it means for women to support other women. Check out her Sunday Jumpstart podcast here.

Deena McKay: Remember how I said Anuli knows ALL the people? Well, she was responsible for introducing me to Deena as well. She knows all the tech things AND she's usually the first to grab a ticket whenever I have a speaking engagement. She's a real one. Subscribe to her Black Tech Unplugged podcast here.

Jessica Williams: Apparently there's no shortage of awesome women named Jessica in my life. Like Deena, Jessica is a tech guru. I met her IRL after giving a workshop at 1871 and the rest, as they say, is history. If you want to learn more about starting a #sidehustle, sign up for a consultation with Jessica here.

Thank you, ladies, for humbling me and inspiring me every day. Looking for tips to build your own tribe? Check out my guest post for Muses here.